My father in law has started treating me differently since I started improving my appearances this year (weight loss, among other things). He plays with my hair, he teases me unmercilessly (because it makes me blush, which he thinks is 'cute'), he compliments me, and he's much more touchy-feely (touching my face, putting an arm around me)....I've talked to my husband, who says that he thinks his Dad has a crush on me. My husband thinks it's funny. I don't.
How do I deal with this? I want the relationship we used to have, and I really don't want any tension with my mother in law. I am actually uncomfortable around him now, because of how flirtatious he is.
Thoughts on this? I'm really frustrated....How to take this - father in law changes behavior toward me?
First off, I would like to say I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Right when you start to feel more confident about yourself, this happens. Now about the issue...
With Confidence as the beautiful Woman that you are, you should address the matter by specifically pinpointing the issue: %26quot;This is inappropriate.%26quot; You should put your foot down (with poise) and let him know it's not okay that he touches you in this way. If he does touch you, seem startled! Like wow, that was unexpected. It will let him know, %26quot;oh she doesn't like this.%26quot; And make a face like %26quot;umm okay%26quot;...with an awkward smile it might give him the HINT. Don't %26quot;play along%26quot; whatever you do.
Some things you could possibly say to your fatheri-in-law is: %26quot;I appreciate you have noticed I have been paying more attention to my appearance, but I am doing it for myself and (insert your husband's name). It does make me uncomfortable to get unwanted attention from others (ie. him, but you don't need to directly tell him).
Unfortunately some men, just don't get the hints, so if matters persist, definitely tell him simply to STOP. He needs to understand where you stand, and in that essence you are an adult, and you are not inferior to him in that respect. Since it is bothering you this much I would say to definitely tell your spouse, because this kind of a situation is not appropriate at all and is not a laughing matter. If something is making you feel this uncomfortable, you have the right in your marriage to talk about it. Maybe you tell your husband something like %26quot;Honey this is serious..I would appreciate if you would listen.%26quot; Or %26quot;Can I tell you something seriously that has been upsetting me...%26quot;
Again, I am sorry that you have to go through this. And best of luck. Just always remember that you are a strong woman and that you will pull through. Take care
God Bless.How to take this - father in law changes behavior toward me?
Be very clear stating to your husband that it makes you feel uncomfortable and therefore you no longer want to hang out with his dad. So, would he still think this is funny? Tell him you need him to talk to his dad about limiting the inappropriate behavior or else you will just avoid being around him. Simple.How to take this - father in law changes behavior toward me?
Well you should talk to him to stop what he's doing now because it can ruin your relationship with your mother in law if she finds out about it. You should tell your husband to helps you out and not laughing about it.How to take this - father in law changes behavior toward me?
my father-in-law does the same thing which is why i really try to avoid him. but if you want to keep a relationship with him i would just simply tell him that he makes you feel uncomfortable with the actions he takes towards you.
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