How can I change my six year old's behavior?

I am the mother of a 6yr old son and a 4yr old daughter. My daughter is well behaved and sweet. My son is out of control. He was born at 24wks and has had 7 surgeries so I have been very overprotective of him. As a result, he now runs my household! It seems that every week that passes he gets worse. He hits his sister ALL the time, screams and yells at us, refuses to do what is asked of him, and is making everyone in the house feel defeated. I have tried time out, taking toys away, charts and rewards...ect. I don't know how to change the behavior that I have created. Please help!How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
Take everything away, have him slowly earn his things back. Make TV time, video game time, and even toys a privilege, only given after good behavior. Don't give into his tantrums. I know this is probably extreme for a 6 yr. old, but if you've tried everything else. If it needs to go to this, take everything away that is valuable, leave him with a bed in his room with bedding, pants and solid colored polos/t-shirts. Since he needs activities to keep him busy, start with books after his chores are done, then slowly add back toys, games, cloths he likes. For food, only the basics, fruit for snacks, dinner is what you cook, no special meals. He needs to change this behavior before it gets out of control.How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
I think it's a boy thing because I have a 3 year old son that acts the same way. I was VERY depressed for his first year and a half and I felt like I didn't give him enough attention so when I %26quot;snapped out of it%26quot; I kinda did the same thing, I smothered him as well. I've tried the time out method as well too but I'm really afraid to go as far as to take him to a behaviorial doctor which I have been consideringHow can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
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we used charts and rewards with strong success. our daughter (2 birth order) was getting out of hand at 6years. one key was to calmly and clearly explain to her what was right and/or wrong with her choices and behavior. sounds silly; but by having her stop, look us in the eye and listen to what needed correction-- we had success in re-programming her to understand what was expected. it worked well for us. still a work in progress to some degree; but we knew we were on the right track when she began to verbally ask us for confirmation on her choices. be patient, your work will last a lifetime and lead him to a happier path.How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
How does he behave at school? You might want to go ahead and make the appointment for him to see a specialist. Because he was born at 24 weeks he may have some behaviors associated with that. If you take him and everything checks out alright then you know that his behaviors are normal.How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
First of all you can't change his behavior. You just have to step it up as a parent. Being overprotective of any child/kid no matter what the situation may be is not good, nor is it healthy.



You just said it as to why he behaves the way he does. You created his bad behavior by being overprotective of him. No child/kid likes an overprotective Mom. This is his way of rebelling against you for being OVERprotective of him.



OVERsheltering, OVERprotective, OVER anything isn't good. You need balance in life and that means when it comes to raising children..,same thing balance. Now when it comes to sheltering, I don't really even agree with that. To an extent I to. Certain things you should sheleter kids from, but when they come to a certain age, don't sit there and keep sheltering them from something you know they are old enough to experience.How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
the old star report! my parents did this with me and my brother for every thing! this is no other chart its the chart of twist and turns! set up a big board ask him what he wants. (ill do a whole walk though right now)



say your kid wants a new bike that he really wants.



set up the board put week one and put the days of the week.



let's say Monday you ask him to pick up his toys. he dose that



give him a star. next you ask him to set the table. he does that.



next you ask him to rinse off his plate and put it in the dish washer. he does not do that take away a star.



next day. and so forth then tally up your stars maybe he needs 10 stars to get the bike and if he has 10 get him the bike if not keep going till he works up to it.



tips: every day post a %26quot;to do list%26quot; fresh by the star chart and in his room. also show him that you can help out too help him set the table.

as he gets older try decreasing the star chart but its always good to have it tucked away.How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
Firstly, allow me to congratulate you for saying %26quot;change the behavior that I have created%26quot;. Now I am being sincere here. The fact that you realise you have created it is great. You are half way to solving the problem already, I promise you.



Sit down with your son and talk to him. Tell him that you have been wrong and apologise. Tell him that you need to do things differently now. Be honest with him. I'm sure he will agree that things need to change. From there you can plan TOGETHER. What I mean is, remember that you are now on the same team. You should work together on this, and yes I do know he is only six years old.



Plan your strategy together. Obviously you have the last say. But keep him in the loop so that he has warning about what is going to change. Together you will be able to do it.



Tell him that you have been inconsistent and that you will try harder to be consistent. Then, when you are strict, he will know why (even though he won't like it at first). Eventually he will come around because you discussed it with him.



Just persevere because it will take a while. But it will take much less when your son takes part in the process with you. Together you can do it. I wish you luck. Well done for realising that something needs to change. You are a champion parent!How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
I have a 5-year-old 'monster' lol! I tried reward charts and the like, but found that these never worked. A couple of months ago, I wrote some 'house rules' - things like I will behave at the table, not stand on it or throw food around; and I will try to go to the toilet when I feel it; or I will be nice to mummy, daddy and my brothers etc... I sat him down and we read the 'rules' together, I had him sign it and I taped it to the kitchen door. Every morning I put up 10p in pennies. Each time he breaks a rule, or does something else naughty, I warn him that he'll have a penny taken away and if he continues I take it away there and then. Every couple of weeks or so I take him out so that he can spend the pennies that he has earned. I will also give him a penny when he has done something exceptionally good. I didn't realise such a young child would respond well to money, but it seems to have worked... for the most part! Most of all BE FIRM, easier said than done though...How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
How about being consistent? You've changed from one form of discipline to another to another but you show no consistency. Of course he isn't going to behave you haven't TAUGHT him how. Until you pick a form of discipline and stick to it you're going to have problems.How can I change my six year old%26039;s behavior?
First stop trying things. Get one thing and stick with it. time outs are fine. the time out gets longer if he misbehaves in timeout. so if he is still screaming you don't count it until he is calm. the first couple of times be prepared for it to go on for an hour or longer. do not give in. it will get shorter.

after the time out talk about the behavior. stop babying him and treating like he is fragile.