Where do you start when trying to change behavior?

Depression, anxiety, paranoia.... all of it. How do you rid yourself of it? Where do you start? Whenever I feel like I'm making some headway something happens and I'm right back where I started. I've been meditating, and it definitely helps out with the anxiety. But the negative thinking and lack of motivation are still there. I'm 23 years old and I live with my parents, even though I make enough money to move out, get a girlfriend, go do things and have fun, but I don't. I don't feel like socializing with anybody. So I would like to know what other people who have risen above these things did to resolve these problems? Where do you start when you don't think you have anything to start with? Thanks in advanceWhere do you start when trying to change behavior?
try to be more optimistic about yourself, and try to get out and work towards these goals. Go on a vacation with a couple of friends who are party animals for 2 weeks then when you come back youll have seen another side to life, and understand yourself a bit more, just be more social, and get out of your house for alittle while.Where do you start when trying to change behavior?
I've mentioned this book in several answers, but it's a book that I truly believe in. It's %26quot;You Can Heal Your Life%26quot; by Loise Hay. I read it after seeing shrinks, psychologists, and trying just about every anti-depressant out there. I had spent the last two years on disability and was about to give up completely because if all those people and meds couldn't help me, then I was truly hopeless. Anyway, my mom bought me the book and I was working in two months. I still have my rough spots, but that book worked miracles for me. It is especially helpful for coping with negative thinking.Where do you start when trying to change behavior?
You have already made the first step by asking this question. Asking questions with an aim toward a specific, positive end has worked wonders in my life. Here's my take: instead of focusing on what's wrong with you, focus on what's RIGHT. For example, you can breathe, eat talk - all those obvious things are in and of themselves miraculous. What all some other things that you HAVE that keep you alive, keep you comfortable, help you laugh sometimes? 2. Focus on what you really WANT to have in life. Achievement is often like crossing a tightrope. You've got to look and focus on the other side and the rope that is going to take you there. All those perils in the wide open spaces below you have not paid their rent in your mind. So don't let them lodge there. Write a list of some of the things you actually DO want in your life, and describe them in a way that makes them vivid and palpable. How will you walk when you've become successful? How will you talk, breathe, sit, stand? Try doing one of these things - something extremely small and easy - as if you're experiencing it, right now. Tell your goals to others, too especially people who've accomplished things you want to accomplish. Ask them - just as you have here - how you can make them happen for yourself. Congratulations on asking this question! Best to you!