instead of rewarding your child, take away things. tell your child why you are taking things and/or privledges away. for example, my son's friend broke our neighbors backboard on the basketball goal and no one said anything to us. they acted like nothing happened. i have always told my children that if they just told the truth they would never be punished. they may have to pay for something or listen to me tell them why they did wrong but they would never be punished. since he did not tell me what happened, i took his door off the hinges and told him since he wanted to be so private and not tell me what happened, he would not have his privacy and would not be able to shut his bedroom door. he hated this but he has not kept something from me like that since. his door stayed off for 2 months. i often just stopped at the doorway and just listened to him talk on the phone or when his friend was over at the house. i do not think either of them will ever do that again. i also made them both go to the neighbors house and sweep off his basketball court two times a week but they could not play and still are not able to play even though the neighbor said it was ok with him.Any incentives to change bad behavior?
Call Nanny 911Any incentives to change bad behavior?
after you poop in the bathroom.....lock him in for a few minutesAny incentives to change bad behavior?
There's a great book called %26quot;Positive Discipline for Single Parents%26quot; even if your not single GET IT its great....I wouldn't use rewards its a form of bribery- just talk and teach him to use him consciousAny incentives to change bad behavior?
find something he likes to do and either reward him or take it away. Behavior modification really does work you just have to give it a chance and dont use primarily negative reinforcement (card pulling, sitting in the corner etc.). You could also give him rewards for sitting still at home for short periods of time and then make the time longer and longer.Any incentives to change bad behavior?
You know it's funny, kids don't 'move around' like we did when we were young.....and then the teachers wonder why their bouncing off the walls...and call everyone ADD...... it could be as simple as not 'running around' enough.....
How about joining a baseball team or get into some kind of sports that will make him tired. Maybe if he had gym at the beginning of the day, the teacher could run him ragged. Anyway the school has a trampoline? Sounds like you just have to wear him down a little..... Don't you wish you had that energy??? Funny how that works......Any incentives to change bad behavior?
beat his ***.Any incentives to change bad behavior?
Spare the rod and spoil the child. Simple. Drugs NOT required. Where's the kid's father? *** whoopin' is what's required here. No doubt. Didn't you get it? No, sorry, obviously not. Otherwise we wouldn't be into third generation problem children. Good luck.Any incentives to change bad behavior?
get the NANNYAny incentives to change bad behavior?
You can take things away and put him in time out= also try James Dobson's book- the strong willed child = and dare to discipline- my son had a talking problem and was the joker- it worked for me!!! DAny incentives to change bad behavior?
Take away %26quot;things%26quot; he likes as punishment. He can earn them back, but nothing is permanent. Start removing his %26quot;toys%26quot; and things as fine/penalty for bad behavior. He might end up with an empty room and no TV for 2 years, but he'll learn to take you seriously-- before he becomes an out-of-control teen.Any incentives to change bad behavior?
ahhh, 9 year olds - God's little joke on parents! LOL! If he cannot sit still then he has too much energy. He may need extra exercise to help burn off some of his extra energy. A good breakfast and a good long walk in the morning may help him to better concentrate throughout the day.
Also, since you mentioned drugs (not using them), I'm going to assume that someone has suggested using them. Take a look at this website for some like minded people:
http://www.shirleys-wellness-cafe.com/riAny incentives to change bad behavior?
Make a contract together...family and school.
It is a list of rules that must be followed.
Have every family member sign it and promise to do his or her best.
Also post consequences for rulesthat are broken so that the child knows exactly what will happen.
The whole family comes up with the rules and the consequences.
Cleaning is a great consequence. So is taking away items.
Write child a note and hide it in pocket, lunch box, something telling him that you believe in him and know he will do great things.
Ask him good things that he did at school so that he feels good about those things and tell him good things that you did that day.
Give rewards for the good. Spend lots of time together...quality time reading, playing, etc.
Go visit the class when he is having a good day and bring a treat for him to pass out.
Lots more ideas........nanny 911 does do it right.Any incentives to change bad behavior?
This is one that I can see working but you would need teacher approval.
As a reward a lot of teachers in my child's classes have given %26quot;free homework coupons%26quot;.
He could be put onto a %26quot; behavior plan%26quot;. He can keep in his folder a calendar (Xeroxed for each month). Each day that his teacher does not need to correct him, he can go to her, (or do himself maybe), check that day off with a star. After he gets 10 stars he can earn a free homework pass ( some teachers have a one subject rule, she may go for that better).
Since this is continuous, each day is anew.Any incentives to change bad behavior?
Any nine year old knows right from wrong. By rewarding him when he behaves trains him to get that reward , he's playing you and the teacher. Your son needs to know you are onto him, perhaps by taking his privleges away may make him aware of the enviroment he is sharing with all concerned. Stick to the matter at hand. Routinely fine tune his senses, make him think of what good he can do. A possitive enviroment. Next time he gets up or acts out, put him in a quiet room where he won't get the attention he's seeking, reminding him,and showing him its not cool to be disruptive in class. His behavior is unacceptable, and unappriciated. Let him earn his priveleges back as his reward. Good luck.
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