We had a few problems in kindergarten because he's such a happy, goofy boy. I know he's just being a kid, and I think it's wonderful that he's so happy, but I'm REALLY having a hard time nipping this one in the bud...
I don't really know how to deal with notes. I mean, the moment has passed since he got in trouble at school, so I almost feel weird about punishing him...
Also, what should I do to enforce behavior changes? I mean, I can take away his TV and video games, but he doesn't really seem to mind that too much. He just finds something else to do...
I'm just frustrated. I want him to succeed. He's SO smart and he's doing acceptionally well with the school work. He's just got behavior problems. Thanks for any advice.:)How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
The first week is typically one where they are all getting caught up, etc. But I would nip it quick this year. What worked for me was having them write sentences (I only had to do this a few times with both boys) for stuff like talking. The cuss word would get a privilege removed along with sentences. We also redid any work that was done incorrectly for not following directions at home and sent the next day. When we did sentences (and this was in first grade with both boys lol) it was six only, one per year old. I also had then return it to the teacher.
Don't feel weird because you were not there. This age they know what they did wrong and they remember it. If you don't work outside of the home, could you possibly volunteer at the school a couple of days a week? Sometimes knowing you are there will help. Or just showing up to eat lunch.
He sounds like a good kid, but this is the age to learn when things are appropriate and when they are not. And if he is bored, see if the teacher will let him go play on the computer or go to a reading station when he's done with his work.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Over and over when he does this you need to say, %26quot;There is a time for fun and games, and a time for seriousness and to listen%26quot;.
Also, what goes around in a toddler is partly what he hears around him.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
enter him into karate, the things they will teach him and OMG he will become a completely different child. Teachers have to keep in mind that this is only grade 1 and you can't expect children to sit all day long and not talk. As human beings we feel the need to socialize and connect with others, its natural. Karate would teach him a lot of good things there are a lot of rec centers that offer it free of charge but if not then just pay to have him take the classes and trust me when i say this its soooooo worth it, i have my 3yr old and 11yr old in karate and they are so different now compared to 6 months ago.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
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Do u think maybe he is bored with the level he is on in the class room?..my daughter last year was also in the 1st grade and she started to act out then i found out cause the work she was doing was making her bored and was to easy for her so they tested her and she was put in advanced class for reading and math...she was find after that cause they callenged her mind...just a thought...good luck!How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Something must rock his world? Thats what you take away?!My son got one sad bear in K and he got the disapointed in you speech, not acceptable behavior, education is important, school is important speech and no TV until the weekend. we haven't had a repeat-he's consistiently a good boy starting 2nd grade.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
My nephew is 6 and he just started school and hes already having problems too. He likes to live out his video games and he does a lot of playing around. Sometimes school systems are not the best for kids because we all know kids have to have their mind stimulated or they will find something to do and more than likely it wont be good. I take away tv, video games, toys and have the %26quot;talks,%26quot; i do time outs where he faces the wall, and i give spankings, i dont know how u feel about that but the mother is the law in the house and youve gotta lay it down.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Since it happened so long ago already, just sit down and have a serious talk about it, and tell him why it is so important that he behaves in school.
(Even though most first grade letters home aren't really bad problems, but still) ;)
Get a box of treats (possibly a clear one that he can see what is inside) and everytime he comes home with a good note from the teacher, he gets one treat out of the box.
If you think he is bored in class, maybe ask the school if there is a class for children who work on a higher level, or are ahead of the rest of the kids.
It sounds to me like he's bored=)
%26amp; I'm sure he's not the only one. I bet half of the class has trouble %26quot;not following directions.%26quot; It's tough following all of the rules at age six=)How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
If you can sit in on a few classes this might be a good idea. Be there to step right on the bad behaviour. Explain that while he behaves like this you will be right there to punish and will not leave till his behaviour improves. This is what they had to do to a child in my kids class last yearHow can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
I would not worry about your son. Look, this is just his first week in school and he needs to adapt. Most likely they do things in class that he is far ahead of intellectually, so he is bored and tries to be funny to impress his class mates. The teacher probably means well to inform you early of what s/he conceives of as a behavioral problem, but I would guess it is an over-reaction.
Having said that, I think that you should talk with your son and tell him that he needs to adapt to expectations in school. I am sure that you will be able to get that point across, even if there may be an occasional relapse. And if problems in class persist, it is foremost the teacher's task to deal with them - it's an easy way out for him/her to dump the disciplining on parents. You might offer your cooperation though.
But whatever happens don't lose faith in your son, I'm sure he will be doing fine.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Before I look at just discipline for my 1st grader I would look at his day at school too. Is there enough time for him to get energy out? Snack times? Breaks between different projects?
I think because teachers have so much to focus on they forget these little people are just that..... little people.
My daughter had this same problem through first and then second grade. She entered 3rd this year. We resolved 95% of her issues by allowing her to take a mini break in between when she was acting up. These mini breaks were as small as walking 20 feet down the hall to get a sip of water to doing a small job that was aside from her regular work.
We also got the teacher to implement a 3rd break in the afternoon to allow her and the class a small snack. Which all the children bennfited from.
Sometimes all they need is a break from the constant focus that schools want... even from our little people.
As far as the cuss word... that is something that should be worked on from home and school. He could have picked it up anywhere. I would warn him that its not good and come up with a plan as to what happens if he cusses again.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
If the teacher thinks he's bored she should be working on an enrichment plan for him. Set up a meeting to discuss whats being done to really keep him interested. As with any behavior problem, find his currency. If it's not video games or TV it will be something else (maybe Karate). Explain to him that if he gets in trouble at school, the fun activity stops at home. Let him know he can earn it back by not getting in trouble. Boys can be a little harder to wrangle at this age but should be showing a little more self discipline. Just work closely with the teacher and you can both come up with a plan that works. Good luck :)How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
My daughter got in trouble at school last year. (Shes a talker) She told us that she had to take '5 on the rug' (time out). So we made her stand in the corner when she got home. I got a note yesterday that she's also talkative this year. We gave her a good talking to, and told her to do her work, before talking. Even if its hours after your son has gotten in trouble, just tell him what is for even if it a few swats on the behind, or a few minutes in the corner. Good luck, hope it gets better :)How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
I'm not a parent myself and wont tell any one how to raise their children but........ I will try to help, I was raised in fostercair and and lived with many different children and saw how allow children do need to be punished and disciplined sometimes, However unless you fined out why your child is behaving the way he is then he will continue to miss behave.
As your son is just starting school then maybe the problem rests their, he could be finding it hard to make new friends maybe he enjoys the attention or maybe he just misses his mother.
As you find letters from the school hard to respond to maybe you could speak to his teacher in person over a cup of tea.
%26quot;I hope that i have been of help and sorry about my bad spelling as a 22 yr old man i still spell like a 5 yr old%26quot;How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
for the cuss word have him write 10 times i will not cuss.
For the other stuff tell him that he has to do what the teacher tells him to do.
tell him their is no talking in class unless he is talked to. And that the next time you get a note from his teacher he will have to stay in his room for 15 min on his bed doing nothing.
we had this problem last year with my 6 year old nephew who is also in first grade.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
When you get a note home form school ( no matter the grade level ) you should arrange a personal meeting with the teacher.
Face to face is always better than notes or phone calls.
Discuss exactly what the problem is and then come to a mutual agreement of how its to be handled.
Never let a problem linger on for every-ones sake. You will then have a much better idea, how to enforce behaviour changes at home.
Keep in mind some child are natural talkers and find it very difficult not to talk out of turn. This is where good class room teaching practises come in. Some teachers find this hard to implement in the class room . This is not to say the teacher is not dedicated and doesn't do his/her job well. The easy way out is to write notes to parents, in hope that they can find the answer.
If he is very bright and bored, then an enrichment program is in order for him. Most schools have this or will make the
suggestion of advancing him one grade level.
It is always great to see a happy child in the class room. These are the children, that find learning fun and easy.
He needs to be talked to by his teacher and yourself together and you both need to try and work to together as a team, on this behaviour.
Cussing is never allowed and he needs to get the message it is not.
As far a punishment for what has already happened, I would forget that. However, after your meeting with his teacher, then in the future, you can implement grounding, removing toys, etc., or what ever you agreed on.
He is happy and needs to stay that way.
Good luck to you and your son.
( Connie Mom of 4 and 5th. grade teacherHow can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Yeah been there done that LOL..Okay well I would first ask how long has the teacher been teaching first grade? My son did first grade last year with a first year teacher and she handed out the warning like candy. He is a good kid that only received one warning for talking out of line in kindergarten so needless to say I too was shocked.
I'm not a big fan of correcting him for something that the school has already handled with exception to him being disprespectful to another student/adult in anyway shape or form..that being said your son hasn't done that..
So if it was me..Well I think what I would do instead is call the teacher and ask what he/she did about it..then I would talk it over with my son and explain to him the reason that the rules are in place. I don't see how punishing him will help..I did that in the beginning of last year and it made it so that my son would come home in tears for fear of losing tv/video game priveliges for something as stupid as talking out of line..How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Well you have too educate him and tell him to calm down, and if he does well reward him with a toy or something, then he will know that if i he does good he will be rewarded.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
The not isn't sent home in order for you to punish the child. It is sent home in order for you to be AWARE of the problems and to discuss the problems with the child. YOU need to speak to your child about following the rules in school rather than behaving the way he wants to. Obviously there are no disciplinary measures in the home if he has access to television/vidoe games whenever he wants them rather than having to EARN them as privleges for good behavior. So he doesn't think the rules at school should apply to him as well.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
ok so im kinda like that im 12. liek in school we just do such boring things! whatever chance i have to make fun out of i use it! so the whole reason ur son is acting out is prob becuase hes bored ask ur teacher if he finishes his work fast becuase if u finish it quickly u rlly have nothing else to do then talk maybe before school u can tell him if u dont get in trouble all day we can get an ice cream or give him a little cross word puzzle and say when ur down with all ur work at school u can play with this ps he wont get into drugs at 15 thats bs!How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
If the teacher mentioned that she thought he might be bored, then it is a good possibility that it's true. I would speak to her about challenging him. Mabey she needs to give him some second grade worksheets. Mabey she could enlist him to help other children who need it in the class. Children love to feel needed, and be helpful. If you don't figure this out now, it won't be long before the teacher wants him to have an interview with the school psychyatrist, and they recommend medication! Keep him occupied and challenged! Good LuckHow can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
I think that the teacher should be the one responsable for his behaviour in class.. i belive she is taking it too far with the notes home.. the kid is only 5 for goodness sake..I use reward as opposed to punishment.... make a star chart for your son.. if he collects so many stars by the end of the week he gets a treat...make up red cards if he collects x amount of red cards in a week his treat is withdrawn, this usually never happens , and allows for some error, we are only human and even we as adults make mistakes, so good luck with your wee boy .. he sounds great ,full of energy, imagination and confidence, so dont worrry. xx ps give him a star for any tiny thing he does thats positive , the constant praise will give him good self esteem and eradicate any bad behavour..How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Maybe you can start by using some kind of points (or star) for prizes reward system on a whiteboard or some poster. Then you can give him a point when he does something nice or good (like put away all of his toys when he is done playing with them) and take away a point every time he does something that he isnt supposed to do (like not following directions in school) When he as accumulated a certain amount of points, give him a prize or allow him to not exchange them right now and save up for a bigger prize. Just dont be too generous on the points (like 3 points gets you a small prize or something) or anything or else this might not work.
If this doesnt really work, then you might have to start doing time outs and spankings. Just dont spank him for the smallest things and only use this if time outs dont work. Also, you can try and say that your going to spank him (cuz he hit you or something for example) and if he doesnt bite, follow up your words with action.
Try positive reinforcements first and if that doesnt work, go to punishment. I also suggest having a chat with the teacher and talk to your son about his behavior at school cuz i think talking helps too.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
Explain to him if he acts up in school he will be punished at home as well. When he gets a note from school,take privileges away for a week starting that day. No video games. No television.Early bed time. I know you said it doesn't bother him. But don't allow any fun.He has to do his homework right after school. After homework is done give him a chores to do(nothing to hard or strenuous. Like have help you clean the bathroom.Have him dust. Keep him to busy for anything fun.Aslo tell him using bad word is not acceptable and if he keps using them he will contuine to loose privlages.make him write line slike I will not se bad words.Since he is so young I would say no more than 25 lines to start.How can I correct my six year old%26039;s behavior at school?
ITS CALLED DISCIPLINE. D-I-S-C-I-P-L-I-N-E. YOU HAVE TO DISCIPLINE YOUR SON. HE SOUNDS LIKE A BIT OF A SPOILED BRAT, NO OFFENCE. YOU SHOULD PUNISH HIM FOR BEHAVING BADLY OR YOU ARE A BAD MOTHER. IF YOU WANT YOUR SON TO HAVE A GOOD LIFE START NOW OR HE'LL END UP ON DRUGS AT 15. I HOPE THAT HELPS :)
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