How can i convince my brother that he needs to change his behavior for his own good?

i have a brother who is presently leaving with my mom and dad.he is separated from his wife because he cannot support his family(3 kids).he sort of escaped from his responsibility.he seems to be not interested in getting a job.he just lounges all day, and goes to his friends drinking and probably doing drugs.how can i make him change?How can i convince my brother that he needs to change his behavior for his own good?
You can't but you can change you...do not support his lifestyle...say no ,inspire your parents to put a price on his future they won't be arround forever. If things don't change have him sign up for the army same deal,food clothing,shelter a little work just whaT HE NEEDS . THE MORE YOU HELP THE MORE YOU HURT .How can i convince my brother that he needs to change his behavior for his own good?
I really like and support 100% what norbie said....so everything I'm going to say is in addition to norbie....give her the points if it comes down to that.



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Your bro has, for whatever reason had enough. Whatever he was doing prior has filled him to capacity and in all likelihood probably did not have to many choices to 'get out'. Would you have been happier had he committed suicide?



I didn't think so.



It could have come to that. People of suicide victims say all the time....'why didn't they say something or do something else instead, at least they'd be alive'. Well...your brother is alive.



He may need to just decompress for a while...no responsibilities, no taxing, no hassles...nothing. I know he has a wife and kids........he SHOULD see his kids, but maybe his wife is a witch to him. Unsupportive, demanding, b----y....and mean. Who knows......we can't know how other people perceive things we say and do in their presence. I can't.....I don't read minds and I don't presume to know how other people feel about things.



Your brother is his own person. He assimilates things in his own way. If he was a good person all his life and always tried and made the effort....something had to have happened to whittle him down to this state.



You should choose to be thankful he's still here...same goes for his wife. What is she doing to help? Or does she call with complaints and criticisms?



Get him to see his kids.......and I'd say....get him a bible and drag is rear to church. Make him read Matthew......make him read Leviticus. There are GREAT bibles that are written in very plain English, and they are not like they use to be.



You can't go wrong by trying to guide him to the Lord.....you just can't. Figure out a clever way to get him started in it. People get lost because they are perceiving the world in the wrong way or people in the wrong way, and they feel alone....but Jesus never forsakes anyone that searches, but does not find.



For whatever reason your brother has given up. He's trying to unload a burden that is to heavy for him....I'm 95% sure that's what's going on. Get him to give his burdens to the Lord. He can read the bible at home....he can be lazy, he can have no responsibility for a while...but he HAS to see his kids. They are innocent and don't understand why dad isn't around.







To reiterate...I have no interest in points for this.How can i convince my brother that he needs to change his behavior for his own good?
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink.